Do you have something that you always try to nail but never seem to do?
I had always wanted to get a grip on my health and despite being fearful of having a stroke (they run in our family) and having high cholesterol & diagnosed with Fatty Liver syndrome, I somehow never seemed to prioritise it….it’s been something that I have struggled with for literally years.
So what’s going on here? I am a coach? I know this mindset stuff?
I guess the beauty of knowing how the subconscious mind works was that I could actually identify some limiting beliefs I had and one of them was that I have told myself the truth that my mum had told me that ‘I had my Dads stature…I was ‘big boned’’ and therefore over some 40 years I had always ‘let myself’ off being really successful at getting a healthy weight because ‘I was Daddys side of the family’…that..is…all LIES!!!
So when I went on one of my coaches’ events last September and she asked us to choose one thing that I wanted but never succeeded on..I went all in. It was time.
We delved into a number of questions:
What do I want?
How does that make me feel?
What is stopping me getting there?
What does setting this intention mean for me?
This opened a barrage of emotions for me….and I leant deep in (yes there was snotty tears) but I knew that I had to once and for all nail this. I also knew that it was holding me back in my business because when you run your own business the line between personal and business are massively blurred…. intertwined and messy.
I am already walking in the shoes of my future business woman – the woman who had the successful coaching business I aspire to have now.
Something was stopping me walking in the shoes of the woman who prioritises herself, her fitness and her health. (I have run the London Marathon for goodness sake so I know I can do hard things!)
So. There and then I set the intention. I went ALL IN. I didn’t eat the cake in the afternoon of that event…literally all in that day. BOOM!
I made a commitment to myself that I was going to trust myself to do it. I would retrain my subconscious mind that I am someone who does what she said. So, when I planned to go on the Peloton the next day…I did. I followed through and I backed myself. When I said I would only have two glasses of Rose, I allowed myself two. Don’t’ get me wrong. I am still work in progress but I am lazer focussed on the end goal.
What I also realised that you do not need all the information, you need to take action.
Steps towards that goal every day.
Every time I heard my voice in my head say ‘don’t feel like the Peloton today… I asked myself ‘what will it feel like when it’s done’ and I knew it would feel fabulous.
I also praised myself every time I followed through on my commitment to my future self….and I do think this helped me bank the positivity.
In Summary
Work on the stories you are telling yourself are true – because they are LIES and will hold you back
Set the intention to be that future self you are working towards NOW rather than waiting until you get there because it will speed up the process.
Back yourself. Build the trust in your own self that you do what you say you do…little step by step. It takes time.
Lean in. Fully. If you want something bad enough then be brave to go get it. Understand it will be messy and hard at times but there again growth is. But it is worth it.
If you would like to hear my story, then I was recently on a podcast with my coach, Dawn Owen, link here – it’s worth a listen. I get vulnerable and honest.
If this resonated with you, please let me know via my DM’s @the_unstoppablegrowthcoach or email claire@clairebannistercoaching.co.uk